I’ve been on Facebook for a few years…..but it was hit or miss in the beginning, learning, and not knowing what I was doing…but I tried and now that I use it for work, family, & friends…..it’s everyday. The best part about it has been re-connecting with all of my old (new) friends. These are people I haven’t seen or heard from in 20+ years! So, you can imagine the tears, joy, and the laughter after re-connecting. What a treat! However, not all of the old friends, who are my new friends, want to engage as much as I do…but that has to be because they don’t know me as well as they used to, right?! Which is the whole point of “friending me” isn’t it?!?! Well, I’m not so sure anymore…lol!
Wow, is all I have to say….as I am really amazed and never expected that this past year would be such a total and complete roller coaster ride…with all the thrills and chills…but at least I didn’t get dizzy or sick! Just to give you an idea……
The most unexpected, was a college friend who found me a over a year ago, we chatted on FB and shared photos, and we got to meet in NY a few months ago…that was fabulous! After catching up on FB overtime when we met it was like there had been no time lapse from when we last saw each other…way back when! We just picked up where we left off…it was a great and weird feeling all in one….to think I haven’t seen/talked to her in forever, and now we’re back where we started! AWESOME! Catherine, you always knew how to have fun & make me (and everyone else) laugh, I am so glad we found each other! Love ya woman:)
The most emotional, was my First Love and best friend, with all the baggage that goes with it…he was next. I was happy and conflicted at the same time. I remember getting the friend request…it wasn’t a pretty sight (who knew?!). I was happy, don’t get me wrong….its just that I had tears, hesitation, and feelings I didn’t expect. Yes, of course, I accepted! And, I am glad I did. It has been really great re-connecting, sharing and laughing…especially at the old pictures…the kind you look at, laugh, and say omg, what were we thinking, wearing, saying, doing?! Tommy, I will ALWAYS love you! I am happy to have you back in my life….and look forward to getting to know you again. I wish you health, happiness, big waves, and a phone that works…lol:)
The funniest has to be one of my girl friends from when I was around 12 years old who recently found me. Wow, we chatted on FB, texting, then talked on the phone a few times, laughing so hard we were CRYING…almost peeing in our pants til 1:00am! Yup, it was that good:) My brother always tells the story of how we (living across the street from one another) were inseparable and would constantly be on the phone even though we had just left each other 5 minutes prior…to find out what color shirt the other would be wearing that night. He might be right, but who cares, as I said to her, it was part of being a teenager, and bonding, AND the great thing is we both remember it like it was yesterday = good memories! Love ya BaBa, the reunion is going to be great…I will call you in 5 minutes…hehehe! And remember, “she” will NEVER be one of us…rofl!
And then came the shocker…someone friended me and I about fell out of my chair….and I answered with a OMFG….because I was truly shocked! Seriously. That’s another whole story…but you get the picture. We laughed about finding your old friends who become your new friends….and it’s so true! One of the things she said that resonated and prompted me to write this is, we all need our tribe! Having had this conversation time and time again with many others I know it’s SO right! And, it doesn’t matter if its a new tribe (my SNCC tribe), an old tribe (96th St), or a mixture of both! We need each other….in good times and bad. AND, let’s face it, there is some comfort in talking with people who grew up down the block, down the hall, know the milestones and landmarks, and the family, because they have known you since you were 12…..especially when you are no longer “at home”. Jenn, you are so funny…yes, we missed & loved you and all wondered where the HELL you were!?!? Glad you found us…and are growing your tribe!
For me, moving away from everyone and everything I know…took its toll. Not easy, and when you have kids, it stinks even more! But, somehow you suck it up and deal…not my mothers words, but the hidden meaning in them! Luckily, I faired well, and have always had an easy time at making & keeping “friends” and have kept in touch with “my circle” as my friend Maridel Bowes calls it which has made life sweeter….but I still felt it….and still have my moments!
My hope for you is that you are finding friends online, making your old friends your new friends, and meeting even more to grow your circle and your tribe! It can be quite an experience IF you are willing to engage and participate in your “friends” fb lives. I can tell you first hand it has rocked my world…in a very good way! I LOVE my tribe!!!
Enjoy the ride….and the journey….life is short!
Are you on Facebook? How long? What do you use it for? Best/worst parts? Have you found your “old” friends? Do you plan to? Making new friends? Where/How? What is stopping you? Any suggestions for those new to FB?