I am boiling……that’s what my FB status said the other night. My friend Sunday’s tweet sent me reeling….and althought I have calmed (thank you Yvonne), and have had a few days to think it over, I am still dumbfounded by the irresponsible comments and suggestions made by Senator Bruce Caswell regarding Foster Kids…..which could inevitably affect foster kids everywhere!
He wants the kids to ONLY be allowed to spend their (are you sitting down) $79 bucks a YEAR clothing allowance at a thrift store…like Goodwill, Salvation Army, etc. This is ridiculous…on both accounts. As a foster mother myself, I can tell you first hand that $79 is going to get you nowhere fast with a growing child, old used clothes or new! I spent more than that in a month, sometimes a week! Let’s be real. And, IF a child wants to buy a new pair of shoes and a hoodie that all the other kids in school are wearing……so what….WHY not???
These kids have had plenty to deal with! Aren’t they traumatized enough? They now need this stigma too?! Can we scream we don’t care and you don’t matter ANY louder?
And for those who think I don’t get it…I do. I know you “save money and it goes farther” when you shop 2nd hand. Been there, done that. As a mother of 4, and a former foster mom, I get it. However, that is NOT the point.
Foster kids need to know they are valued. They matter. That we care! What you, Caswell, are suggesting is doing the opposite. You are sending a very bad and hurtful message. This will NOT teach kids self value, self worth, or anything else – good. Get real! And, just because you never had anything new, doesn’t mean they shouldn’t either.
Not to mention its a different world than it was when you were growing up in the 50’s. And, lets not forget that depending on where you live and where you shop, the 2nd hand stores are going to have vastly different items available. That is reality! So, saying a child is going to find those new nike’s or that hoodie he/she wants is NOT reality. Saying he/she shouldn’t be able to buy it new is absurd and insulting. How about socks and underwear, should they share those too?! Oh, please. I would like to see you and your family wear ALL used 2nd hand clothes for a year….then we’ll talk. Walk the walk Senator. And while your at it, how about suggesting taking some of the money being spent on the Golf course a town away (for the rich), and putting it towards the clothing allowance for Foster kids, bringing them up to a whopping $100 a year?! Just sayin…..
This is only one example of how broken the foster care system is AND how government has the ability to make or break a child…an innocent child! As a people we need to stand up and speak for ALL foster kids, who have NO voice! It is our responsibility. We are their voice! They are our future. These kids need us, now!
And, what better way than May, Foster Care Awareness month. Please join me in making a big deal about this (for all Foster Kids)….call, write a letter, send an email…Senator Caswell can be reached here…or do a gift card drive….whatever you can do! You know I have a big mouth, and can hardly contain myself when confronted with insanity…I mean stupidity….but with your voice we can be much louder!!!! So, I am asking you to speak up! I promise, together we can and do make a difference:)
Let them hear us ROARRRRRRR….for ALL of the kids.
Thanks so much,
What do you think about the clothing allowance? The Senator wanting to force clothing options? How would you feel if you were told you could ONLY shop thrift? How do you think your kids would feel? How would it affect them emotionally? Socially? Do you believe it will impact Foster children? In what way?!